I find it's a good idea whenever you're setting out on a new endeavor to take stock of where you're going, why you're going there and what you want to do on the way. The new year is a new endeavor of sorts, so before diving into any major goals I want to pause for … Continue reading The Path
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Constant Change
In the relative chaos of the past two years, my job has been mercifully stable. I work for a Silicon Valley tech company, and I honestly feel lucky to be here. The company was founded with a mission I care about. The people I work with are smart and diverse and awesome, and I can … Continue reading Constant Change
The Balancing Dance
I've always wanted to be a more conscientious person -- the kind of rabbit who sends "thank you" cards when someone's done him a good turn; or surprises his friends, neighbors, and regular acquaintances with a thoughtful gift on a birthday or holiday; someone who remembers the names of coworkers' children or pets, and asks … Continue reading The Balancing Dance
Block by Block
It's hard to talk about why I stopped writing. Not because I don't understand it, but because there's this fear that writing it down and posting it up for everyone to see will reveal some fundamental weakness on my part. When you live with the brain that I do, you learn not to trust your … Continue reading Block by Block
Kwanzaa 2020: Kujichagulia
Habari gani, fam? Today we focus on the principle of kujichagulia, or self-determination. Any people that have struggled to throw off the legacy of slavery and institutional racism fundamentally struggle for the right to determine who they are themselves, instead of accepting the role the dominant culture pushes on them. As Black Americans, we deal … Continue reading Kwanzaa 2020: Kujichagulia
The 40-Year-Old Version
What can I say about this year that hasn't already been said better by someone else? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZj8lrSZHsE A novel coronavirus has spread across the world like a less-virulent (and less-deadly) Captain Tripps, wreaking havoc on the already tattered social fabric of this country. The President of the United States thinks it either doesn't exist, will … Continue reading The 40-Year-Old Version
The Anxious Person’s Guide to Political Discourse
Personal confrontations among friends are a special kind of hell. No matter how much you brace for the conflict, or how hard you try to keep calm, eventually the anxiety takes hold and restraint goes out the window. It's such an awful experience most of us will do anything to avoid it. Unfortunately, in today's … Continue reading The Anxious Person’s Guide to Political Discourse
The Overnight Walk to Prevent Suicide 2019
I've attempted suicide twice -- once a short time after I was disowned by my mother for being gay, and again after a bad break-up with my first real boyfriend. Both times, I felt completely unmoored after severing fundamental relationships that also disconnected the fragile support networks that came with them. There was no one … Continue reading The Overnight Walk to Prevent Suicide 2019
What I Learned This Month (January 2019)
January is usually dominated by two things for me: stress-testing the routines I've developed to fall into better habits, and Further Confusion 2019. The convention this year was actually pretty fun: I enjoyed myself at my panels, met a lot of really awesome people, and rediscovered my love of selling books (I was a relief … Continue reading What I Learned This Month (January 2019)
Depressional Confessional
I like to think I'm a pro at being depressed. Some of my earliest memories as a kid, looking back, suggest to me that I've had severe depressive episodes all the way back to elementary school. One particular experience I had in middle school, now that I think about it, had to have been an … Continue reading Depressional Confessional
From the Desk of Jakebe T. Rabbit 